Why I never use my stroller and other disabled mama hacks:
When I was 7 months pregnant I dreaded my commute. I lugged my heavy body and I’ll fitting prosthetics onto the subway everyday and up the four flights of stairs out of the subway and into times square. One day I saw a friendly guy that got on a few stops after me using a wheel chair. I only took note of him because of his really cool captain america backpack honestly. He got off at times square with me and we were walking in the same direction when he realized the elevator was out of order. Now he was screwed because I knew there was no other elevator on the platform so I had to advise this poor guy to wait for another train and take it to 34th street and wheel himself back up. Now he was late for a meeting.
That stuck with me and I kept trying to imagine how I was going to manage with a baby. Take her out of a stroller with her in one hand and her diaper bag and the stroller in the other and up the stairs I go? What about days I’m struggling with mobility? What if I need to use the railing? What if i were carrying groceries? With it made clear that elevators were not reliable, I needed a plan.
For me, and my mobility issues, the baby Bjorn crotch dangling carrier did not work. It has a very specific center of gravity and that didn’t work for me at all. However, the Moby baby wrap has been a lifesaver so far. Not only does Margot love being tucked in there and so close to my heart beat, I feel amazing wearing her. I could still use a cane or railings while wearing her this way if I needed assistance and the weight distribution can be adjusted to my needs that day. I have also used the ring sling, which I liked a lot but didn’t feel was as sturdy. It was good for housework and days I had someone (I.e. my husband) with me but I don’t know how I would feel having her in the sling if I were out and about solo.
Now we do have a stroller. We have a silver uppa baby vista that weighs about 25 pounds. It is easy to use in a scenerio where I have access to a car and I am not in a crowded area. Pretty much that means I only use her stroller when I am in the suburbs visiting my mom. It is good for trips to target or walking around their neighborhood. The stroller does act as a cane helping with weight distribution but even walking my dogs in my area, where I know I won’t be facing stairs or crowds, I prefer using her wrap or sling.
Again if there are ANY disabled mamas on the internet that wanna chat and exchange tricks of the trade I am open to it. Don’t feel like you are shouting into the void